Ladies, check his address and CGPA before checking your heart!

January 6, 2025 | by Yoda

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VICTIM’S TESTIMONY

Trigger alert: Cheating, Physical, Verbal and Mental Abuse, Manipulating Minors.

Hello everyone!

This is going to be a long post, but I’d truly appreciate it if you could take the time to read. I’m struggling to make sense of everything and could really use your advice/ criticism/ suggestion/ closure or anything else you’ll be able to offer here. Thank you!

A LITTLE BACKSTORY

I’m an introvert, have VERY FEW friends and don’t really engage with people from the opposite gender unnecessarily. I had been single for around 7.5 years and when I say that I was single, I mean it in every possible way. Loving someone and being loved by them mean SO MUCH to me and in my opinion, love is a simple, pure and untainted feeling.

Spoiler alert: I was wrong.

THE MAIN STORY

I met him at the start of 2023 during the final semester of my undergrad. He joined the same university club I’d been part of for years. He was married at the time but kept it a secret, claiming he was only in a live-in relationship.

Despite this, he was friendly, helpful, and fun to be around. Gradually, we became friends. We were also part of a large group and together we created beautiful memories. So, I let my guard down and befriended him since he was already committed to someone and things were fine that way.

Fast forward to July, he got divorced (he had been married for about a year and over time, we learned that there were a lot of complications, and he had been looking for a way out all along) and right after that he confessed his feelings for me. By then, I’d noticed several red flags: his inability to process emotions, jumping from one attachment to another, and of course LYING. So, I asked him to take some time and try to understand his emotions better. Before him, I had only one relationship. I love deeply and perhaps that’s why I guarded my heart for so long. I craved genuine connections, never anything casual, and everyone around me knew it including him, thanks to our mutual friends. BUT he was determined, put in effort, and assured me that he LOVED me (let’s all laugh together, you’ll get the joke later). After much persistence on his part, I gave him a chance, thinking maybe, just maybe, I could help him become better. BIG MISTAKE. I would never deny that we had that understanding and comfort zone between us, so we kind of started dating. I’m using ‘kind of’ because the reality was quite different on his end than what he was showing.

At the end of July, two of our mutual friends asked him whether he was dating me ‘exclusively’ and he agreed wholeheartedly. As our dating phase continued, I finally understood that he lied A LOT about everything. He literally created a bubble full of lies, and to this day, he still lives in that bubble. A few of his go-to lies were:

CGPA claims: In Spring, 2023 (his 7th semester at NSU), he bragged about a 3.82 CGPA and completing 70/80 credits, whereas in reality, he was on his second probation and had barely completed 12/15 credits. (He studied at IUB for three years, then changed his department and was admitted to NSU in Spring, 2021)
Gulshan er Basha: He even lied about the place he lived in and told everyone (after his divorce) “আমাদের তো গুলশানে ফ্ল্যাট আছে, আমি ওই ফ্ল্যাটে থাকি।” OMG, the lengths he went to keep up his fake ‘Gulshan er basha’ story! Staying in South Badda isn’t an issue but his obsession with pretending to be a rich kid was ridiculous. When we started dating, he realized that eventually he’d have to take me to his place and suddenly came up with this story about selling their flat and moving to South Badda. I might’ve believed it if I hadn’t already seen his non-existent Gulshan flat on video calls, with the same yellow walls and identical setup.
Chronic dishonesty: Whenever he had a conversation with me or anyone else, he lied about almost EVERY SINGLE THING. He WAS and IS a complete SHOW-OFF.

Apart from all these lies and obvious cheating tendencies (that I was too dumb to overlook), the person he continuously portrayed in front of me was really nice. He possessed almost all the qualities (or at least pretended to, for some time) of being a good partner except for being faithful and honest.

By the time I figured all these out, it was too late, and I was irrevocably in love with him. But was I okay with all these lies and his personality traits? DEFINITELY NOT. If there’s one thing I hate the most, it’s lying. But I became the ultimate idiot and blockhead in love, thinking to myself, ওকে আমি ভালবাসা দিয়ে ঠিক করে ফেলবো!

I started treating him like a kid, helped him with his studies, took care of him, and tried to be there for him in every possible way. He was also the happiest when he was with me. He asked me how much time I’d be able to give him since I was about to apply for my postgraduate degree abroad. I replied that the maximum amount of time I could wait for him was 2 years, and within this timeframe, he needed to complete his undergrad studies (which was doable if he worked hard). I wasn’t in a position to tell my family about my relationship, though they knew him as my friend. At that time, I was doing my internship and held back everything about studying abroad. He was fully aware of my decisions because I was doing all these things for him.

All the while, this guy had some QUESTIONABLE EQUATONS WITH HIS EX-WIFE that I’m pretty sure no sane person would be able to make sense of. In November, we had a huge fight because of his ex-wife. From the time we started dating, his ex-wife continuously disturbed me through texts and calls, harassed me online, tried to raise her hands (read ‘show her standards’) on me in front of my campus, and finally reached out to my family to talk about my relationship. I also found out that she was calling my then-partner asking for sex, and he was talking to her the whole time. Despite his promises otherwise, he stayed in touch with her and I started seeing his true colors. At that point, for the FIRST time, I wanted to check his phone. (He ALWAYS had access to my phone and would go through everything from time to time. Even though I didn’t like it, I never stopped him because I thought, if this gives my partner any sort of peace, then let him be) I wanted to trust my partner for who he was. He had almost no complaints against me. But when I got my hands on his phone for about 15-20 minutes, his activities shattered me to the core. Man, oh man! I still don’t know what I did to deserve all that other than loving him?!

He was in a messenger group where nudes of ordinary girls were being shared.
Had regular communication with his exes and NEVER told me about it.
Used to show me off to other girls and simultaneously told them he had NOTHING with me. He was talking to/dating/idk what with other people, even though he clearly told our common group of people that he was only with me.
There were hardly any conversations with any girl. Not that he didn’t talk to them, but he deleted every single chat. (His cheating tendencies were quite visible but you wouldn’t be able to point fingers at him because he continuously deleted, hid, or removed inappropriate stuff)
Bro is a Pro Snapchatter (iykyk). His snapchat chats were set to ‘delete after viewing’ exclusively for girls. Replying to every girl’s snap or story was his favorite activity of the day.
He maintained very good relationships with his juniors (read ‘girls’). He belongs to the debate fraternity and conducts sessions/workshops regularly, where he gets to meet school/college-going girls. I would find every student of his added with him on all social media apps. He referred to a few of them as his ‘friends’ and called them Babe/Boo regularly. Keep in mind that this guy is in his early 30s (don’t be baffled, he lies about his age too) and his students are at least 10-12 years younger than him.
Another troubling part is that he starts flirting with his students as soon as he feels they might reciprocate, show even a little interest, or won’t object. (I’ve tried talking to him about it, explaining how wrong and harmful it is on so many levels. But he is sooo ethically degraded; he only cares about what he wants like every other narcissist).

It was a flood of soul-crushing and hurtful things to endure in just 15 minutes. Though I could dig deeper, I couldn’t bear any more. I handed his phone back and said we were done. From the next day, his part of chaos started.

He began showing up at my office uninvited, sending videos of him crying to our mutual friends, threatening to commit suicide, and harming himself physically to manipulate me. For three weeks, he begged for a second chance, claiming he had never done anything serious/wrong and that if I was hurt, it was unintentional. At the same time, I learned about his one-night stands, a sex tape he had circulated himself, and past cheating incidents, none of which he knew I was aware of.

Despite this, he insisted he was a changed man, regretted his past, and was tired of his old ways. He claimed I was the only person he had ever truly loved, dreamed of a future together, and wanted to marry me as soon as life allowed.

To be honest, I was extremely exhausted by all of these and most importantly, he was the person I felt something for and loved with all my heart after almost 8 years. I had to watch HIS SUICIDE ATTEMPT LIVE ON VIDEO CALL. It was downright traumatizing. My brain was constantly in conflict with my heart and I ended up giving him another chance. It was around the end of 2023 when another bomb dropped on me. This time, it was his results again. He took 5 COURSES that semester and FAILED 3 of them. In that semester, the only thing I wanted from him was a decent result so he could come out of probation. He couldn’t give me that either. I’ll never understand how someone can’t even pass a course despite attending all the classes and appearing in every exam. Once again, he apologized, saying he was tangled up in his past (ex-wife er pera) and couldn’t concentrate properly. He promised he would definitely do better next semester.

At the beginning of 2024, I requested him to look for a job and he managed to get one. (Problem chhilo j ei manush tar sharadin e temon kono kaj thakto na class kora baade r class er age pore nesha kore pore thakto. This scenario became alarming and I was genuinely concerned about him, so I wanted him to be busy with something productive) He started working and seemed very happy with what he was doing. The new semester started as well, and surely, it was tiring for him to juggle work and studies. But for the first time in months, I felt that he was actually putting in some work and I was really happy. This person was SOBER, EMPLOYED, and STUDYING only because I was there, pushing and encouraging him every minute of every single day. But to my utter surprise, he was complaining to our common friends that I had asked him to get a job as I didn’t want to be with a person who is a ‘unsuccessful loser’ (I found this out just a few days ago). I WISH he had also told people how I supported him financially for months, paid for every one of our dates, and covered his expenses when there were times he didn’t even have the money to recharge his phone. I have no problem with contributing financially (had been doing that since we started dating).

He was busy with work and studies but still made time to meet me and I used to wake up very early so he could talk to me on his way to office. Amidst all these, his constant lying never stopped and I could sense it. In February, he suddenly brought up his ex-wife, claiming he had doubts about her and had recently learned she was involved in prostitution. I calmly told him to let go of the past and asked if he was still in communication with her. He denied it saying he knew about it through mutual friends. I asked him again to stop concerning himself with her life and move forward from this once and for all. But this Pathological Liar could never stick to his words and all of his suspicious activities were increasing day by day.

One night in March, I confronted him about his lies. I HATE LIARS, especially those who think everyone around them is too stupid to see through them. Despite my reassurances and attempts to get him to come clean, he revoltingly came up with lame explanations. I guess some people aren’t capable of telling the truth because they’re not even honest with themselves. I finally snapped that night and told him I couldn’t do it anymore, even though I loved him with every ounce of love my heart could possibly hold. I wanted peace in my life and didn’t want to spend it with someone who would never be honest with me. His reaction? More melodrama and threats:

Coming to my house and talking to my parents about our relationship.
Threatening me to make our private photos public.
Destroying my life in every way possible.

He became aggressive, even violent, yet told everyone he was doing all these because he couldn’t live without me. He asked if I had someone else in mind or planned to go for an arranged marriage. I told him no because I don’t play with people’s emotions, time and energy. Unlike him, I didn’t keep backups. From the moment I started loving him, I only thought of him.

He BEGGED FOR ANOTHER CHANCE, promising to make everything right within six months. He just requested me to be with him and act normally. (Karon ami na thakle bro kichhui thikmoto korte pare na). I complied with him for the last time and continued doing everything like any other couple. (I know, I’m an idiot, but this idiot would go to any extent for love and that’s what gave me solace, knowing that I did everything out of love) But after three months (in June), I discovered more absolutely non-negotiable stuff. For me, it was the final nail in the coffin and I finally realized that I had done too much for him that the only next possible step was to STOP and leave him alone. We had an almost day-long conversation and I told him everything that bothered me, word by word. He got furious, checked my phone repeatedly, and didn’t let me touch it all day. HE EVEN RAISED HIS HANDS ON ME, SHOVED ME WITH FULL FORCE, KICKED ME TWICE when I was unable to respond to his verbal abuse (told him that he’s not the person I would get married to so I wasn’t gonna be with him anymore. He asked me multiple times “আমাকে আর ভাল্লাগে না? অন্য কারো চো* খাইতে চাস?”) and later apologized, claiming it was just reflex (my life is funny but this guy is funnier). I was continuously sobbing but stayed calm throughout.

His begging, futile words, and crocodile tears didn’t stop. Exactly four days later, I met him accidentally at campus. He asked unnecessary questions and tried convincing me again. At one point I asked for his phone, he refused and clearly said he wouldn’t let me check his phone. THIS WAS IT. As I stood up to leave, he grabbed my hands, took my purse, and tried to force me to stay. He was doing all these absurd shit but not once did he hand me his phone to give me any reassurance. BECAUSE, this asshole was CHEATING on me. The whole time he was begging me to stay with him, he was flirting, making the same plans he made with me, and looking for physical intimacy and emotional support from someone else (screenshots attached). I somehow left and blocked him on everything except Snapchat (he had some of my stuff so I had to contact him sooner or later). What followed was a series of ultimate SHITSHOW:

Reached out to mutual acquaintances in June-July, spreading made up lies and blaming me for things that didn’t happen and I didn’t do
Came to my house in July, creating scene in front of my mom and claiming I left him without any reason/ explanation, I was unfair to him and he would never forgive me.
Harassed me in public (August), including at local restaurants.
Told my juniors that I ended the relationship because I was leaving for my master’s. (Brooo, I POSTPONED MY DREAM OF STUDYING ABROAD FOR MORE THAN A YEAR ONLY BECAUSE OF HIM. How could he even say that?!)
He also told people that we just had a normal fight, I didn’t let him explain himself and cut him off abruptly.

All the while, he was dating multiple people, INCLUDING A MINOR in October, kept telling me how much he missed me, and even wanted me back sometimes. While I don’t care about the grown-ups he fucks with, I’m really concerned for the underage girls he manipulates. I hope this post reaches even one of them so they understand that this morally corrupt, manipulative, pretentious individual has NO GOOD INTENTIONS. He will go to any extent for personal gain and you’ll never be able to hold him accountable because he has no remorse for how he creates a living hell in someone’s life.

I also know for a fact that the one person I got to know about isn’t the only one he cheated on me with. If any of you can help me with any other proof or clarity, I would be eternally grateful. Wish I were chased by a serial killer rather than a serial cheater!

So, tell me, were we getting cheated on by the same person?

Now, I see EVERYTHING as a LIE and can’t fathom why he put me through all these in the name of love. If you’ve read this far, THANK YOU again for taking the time out to know about my misfortune. Please, keep me in your prayers :’)